Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Insecure Writer's Support Group - February

Well, it's been awhile since I've posted here (thank you, Alex, for reminding me). I guess because I'm not working on a writing project at the moment, this has not been top of mind for me. But there is a new writing project lurking in my subconscious and I'm struggling with whether I want to do it or not.
I've just become a grandmother to twins and I'm going to be flying back and forth to the East Coast fairly frequently.
I'm turning 69 in April and I'm not sure I want all the energy and attention that will be required to do this project to go to that project.
Partly, it's because I haven't been "successful" in the ways I hoped at writing. Yes, each book has been immensely satisfying to complete and put out in the world. But truthfully, they're not selling. And truthfully, I'm not doing anything to help them sell.
Perhaps there's a reason people retire in their sixties and seventies. We've worked hard at our careers all our lives and at some point, it becomes time to let go of "doing" and just "be."
Except I'm not happy when I'm not productive. And I'm not particularly happy when I'm not writing. Writing always has and probably always will, helps me make sense of my world. So...I'll probably peck away at this new project for that reason alone. It is another memoir...one that continues to chronicle this incredible healing journey I am on. Stay tuned....


Thursday, January 11, 2018

What's going on?

I received an email from Alex (our Ninja Captain) the other day asking if I wanted to remain a member of the Insecure Writer's Support Group since I hadn't posted anything in the last two months. I immediately said I wanted to stay because this group has been a huge source support for me in my writing journey. But then I began to think about where I am in my life and what needs my energy and attention and blogging doesn't show up anywhere on that list. What does that mean? Does that mean I should stop my blog? Does that mean I should quit ISWG?

I'm not sure...I'm not sure if I'll ever write anything again that I will choose to publish. I'm not sure what's next for me other than being in grandma land and going to take care of my grand babies for three months beginning in February.

What I am sure about is that the main priority for me right now is to get as healthy and strong as I can so I can be here for as long as I can for those babies. I'm working with weights for the first time in my life. And I can certainly feel a difference already in my physical strength.

So for now, until I figure all of this out, I'm going to remain in grandma land and just "be" and not worry about whether I'm writing or not or what to do about this blog. If I can, I'll post to ISWG, and if I can't, Alex will do what he needs to do and remove me from the list. I understand. His email was a sort of wake-up call to remind me - oh yes, there is this group I've been an intrinsic part of that I've been ignoring. What's going on?


Sunday, December 24, 2017

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!!

Saturday, November 11, 2017

Grandma land for real

Hi dear friends,
One more week until we leave to meet our twin grand babies. They are not here yet, but will come in the next week, either on their own or induced. I'm over the moon with excitement and anticipation and praying that babies and mom come through the birth easily and with no problems whatsoever.
I won't be around the internet much this month, so I want to wish everyone a happy and joyous Thanksgiving. May we all count our blessings and be grateful every single moment for our lives, our health, our freedom, our joy, and the love we have in our lives.


Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Insecure Writer's Support Group - November

Wow, it's November! Honestly, time is flying by so damn fast. I'd heard as you get older, this happens, but really. Where did this year go? Anyway, it's time for IWSG and once again, thanks for Alex www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com for creating this wonderful group. Please visit Alex for all the scoop you need to join.

I'm not writing anything right now, so I'm not insecure. About writing, anyway. I've kind of lost myself the last couple of days, but today I'm beginning to feel myself again. I got triggered by lots of fear about the unknown. But with the help of several really good friends, I got clear about what was causing my anxieties and figured out what I needed to do about them. Whew! Having battled depression multiple times in my life, I'm relieved that this one only lasted a few days.

How about you? What's happening in your world?

Friday, October 27, 2017


I'd given up on ever being a grandmother. My son married late and is in his early forties and there were other reasons it might not ever happen, so I let go of that dream. Now he's expecting twin babies, a boy and a girl, and ever since I learned they were pregnant, I've landed in a new universe -- grandma land. I can't stop thinking about these babies and how my son's life is going to change. And how these babies are going to change everyone's lives around them. Including mine and my husband's. My hubby and I married when we were in our forties and I was already done having children, so he never had any. Now he's going to be grandpa to twins. He's going to be great with them, I just know it. He's someone who should have had a child because he's still so much in touch with the child inside of him. I lost the child inside of me a long time ago and I've been working for many many years to find her again.

Now the twins are almost here. They will come within the next four weeks and I can't seem to do anything except wait. We will go see them after they're born, then their mom will be home with them for three months maternity leave, then hubby and I will go take care of them for a few months. I have no idea what grandma land will be like once they're here, but if it's anything like what grandma land is like now, I'm in trouble because I am totally, hopelessly, madly enchanted and in love with them and can't seem to think about or do anything more than jigsaw puzzles or knit.

Sounds like falling in love, doesn't it?